my dog lady died 2weeks ago this friday..i still get really sad and cry about her not being here.she meant so much to me..my parents thought the best thing for me was to get a new puppy..and this puppy is great but i dont know if ill ever love it as much as i did lady..and this puppy is a boy and ive never had a boy before..i barely get any sleep b/c it crys and pees all over my bed and gets really close to me..its so clingy and the crying is so horrible..i cant sleep..whats the best way to house break a boy puppy? b/c i dont remember lady crying that much when she was a puppy and she never peed on my bed..any suggestions?
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First off, losing a pet is traumatic..like losing a family member..I'm so sorry for you!!
Ok, so getting this little boy trained. Take him outside. OFTEN!! Right before bed, and DON'T give him anything to eat or drink after 6.yes it does work. As for him crying, is he extremely young? He will cry for his litter mates, but NOW you're his litter mate. Snuggle, kiss and love him. And hopefully with a lot of love and attention, he'll find the little place in your heart that Lady had.NO, he won't replace her, just kinda fill the little hole she left in you!! Be patient with him, and enjoy him. Don't ever compare him to Lady, and maybe he'll become your new baby!!
Good luck honey!!
It was probably too soon to buy you a new puppy. You need some time to get over the death of your other pet.
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Your parents did this out of love for you. Give the puppy a chance. He can't take care of himself. After he drinks and when he wakes from a nap, take him outside where he'll pee. He'll soon get the message. He's missing his brothers and sister and Mom, just like your missing your dog Lady.
what kind of breed is this puppy? it might be more clingy because of its breed, just remember this puppy is a baby and needs to be nurtured or it will not grow up right, just give him discipline and love and he'll be fine, there are so many unwanted puppies in this world i'm glad your parents got another one, i'm sorry for you loss but dogs do not live that long what matters is how good there life was, and your new puppy deserves the same as lady had
my grandmother used to pee the bed before she died, I stopped that by putting her in a cage at night.
just joking. Put the dog in a cage at night, or dont give him food or water after after 6pm. and make sure you take him out to do his thing before u settle down for the night. Hope that helps u out.
Good luck
well unfortunately he's a puppy so peeing where he's not supposed to and crying is just normal but he will get over it. I've had a puppy that peed all over my bed also and there wasn't much that I could do except give him his own room and close the door at night (if not a whole room just a specific area that is his). I house broke my dog by doing the "putting her nose in it" and then putting her outside. After a while she started asking for the door by herself. The puppy will never learn it by himself. He must be tought and you must be patient with it. Good luck!
Sorry to hear about your loss. We waited about 6 months after loosing our "puppy" of 12 years. Your feelings are normal. Mom and Dad may have got the little fella too soon. You need time to "mourn" before a new pup comes into the picture.
Do the best you can and if that doesn't work, put the pup up for adoption and explain to your parents it was "too soon"
kenal it at night. put him in another room in a just big enough for him kenal *if its to big he will pee in the corner* you could even put it in the garage but thats pretty much all you can do. and when you take him out side do not play with him until he goes potty. then he will know what he is out there for. *my dog actually will let us know now when she needs out because of this and she never pees in the house* hope this helps. the first few weeks with a puppy are ruff. also im very sorry to hear about your dog lady. losing a pet is so hard.
I just got a kitten, and yes she is litter trained, but she needs attention and has to be touching me at night. It is just the way they are. depending on age, animals feel separation anxiety from their siblings and mother, so they like to be close to who they see as their caretaker. My cat cries whenever i leave the room. And the way i trained the dog i use to have was the simple conventional way. If he peed, put his nose in it, give him a little tap on the nose with a rolled up newspaper or paper towel tube(that works well because it makes noise) and then put him outside. It only took about 4 days before he would either hold it or take me to the door to let him out. Good Luck!
It will take some time for your puppy to do a little growing up.
Dogs grow fast and it will be no time and it will be sleeping through the night.
Maybe take it on a walk before you go to bed make sure it does not have any food or water about 1.5 to 2 hours before bed. Then take it for that 20 to 30 min walk.
It is just a puppy you have to have patients with it.
It loves you unconditionally.
It is not your former dog but you can love it just as much. It will just take time.
Good luck.
You can get a dog crate. It is a like a small metal cage. You put the dog in there at night or when it is alone in the house. I would suggest putting a blanket in there too.
Puppies need to be with you. A dog is a "pack" animal, meaning it likes to be with the pack. You have basically replaced this puppies mother, so he is looking to you for everything from food to companionship.
As for housebreaking him, make sure you feed and water him at specific times of the day. Then within 15- 30 minutes, take him outside to do "his business". Make sure to praise him when he does well. If there are accidents in the house, show it to him and tell him in a firm voice, "NO" then immediately take him outside.
Good luck, and although this new puppy will never replace Lady, he can bring you lots of love, too.
You should crate train the puppy. If you have one entirely full day to do this, it will have the best results. Put the puppy in the crate at the beginning of the day. Then, every hour (it has to be every hour, not hour and a half or two) take it outside. Give it 3 minutes to do it's business (time it). If it does not go, take it back in and put it in the crate. If it does, praise it for going outside, play with it, then bring it back into the crate. Most dogs hate being around pee and poop and will not pee in an enclosed area.
Your parents jumped the gun but that's not puppy's fault. Get a book or look on Internet on how to train your new pup. Don't let it drink near bed time and take it out to go potty just before. It may take a while but this pup will get to you with it's own little personality. Be patent with it. Sorry for your loss of "Lady".
you train them just the same way, as ashe puppy, and he probabably feels just as insecure, try and put him with a warm hot water bottle, under a thick blanket, to give him warmth, and make sure you let him out to do his business, and dont scold him if he wees in the wrong place, he wi ll learn he gets attention if he does this, and carry on doing so, just make sure you are consistent with where he can wee. and no you wont love this puppy as much as you loved lady, you will learn to love him in a different way, i recently lost my puppy and my husband went out a week later to replace him, and toffee certainly does not replace buster, and never will, but we are beginning to come to an understanding, it just takes time, good luck
It's going to take some time. You have to look at a puppy the same you would look at a baby child, at first they don't have the ability to control where and when they go as adults do. So I wouldn't recommend the dog sleeping with you until he is house trained. House training is too long to discuss here, but you can find plenty of information on the internet. But basically, you want to reward good behavior, that means walk your puppy often and when he goes outside give him a treat immediately after so that he knows what he did is right. Also, when you see him ready to go, you can make up a comman that you say, like "squat and drop" and eventually you might be able to teach him to go on command, which is usefull when it's really cold outside. Like I said though, search the net and you'll find more than enough information.
aww how cute a puppy
He's still just a puppy, and it will take a while to housebreak him. Take him outside as soon as he shows any sign of needing to go to the bathroom, and he'll get the message. And he's still probably missing his mother and siblings. I've heard that a good way to calm him down is to put him in his bed with a hot water bottle wrapped in a towel, and a clock that ticks. That will fool him into thinking he's with his mother while he sleeps. Until he's housebroken, you might also have him sleep in his cage.
As for Lady, she will always have a special place in your heart. Even if you grow to love this puppy as much as you did Lady, that won't change.
I have a puppy now and have had quite a few before. First of all the sex is not relative, male or female. House break the puppy by having her stay in a crate at night. Puppies will not pee or poop where they are laying, while in a confined area. He/she needs her own space at night to sleep just like you do. Put her on a schedule so she knows when bedtime is. Alway take her outside to pee etc. before he goes to bed. Be sure to have a crate that is large enough for the puppy to move around a little. Good ones are made of medal and can be quite large, but a good size dog carrier works well also. Remember to cover her crate at night with a sheet so she is not distracted by what she can see. I use tapes and play them for my puppy. Like books on tapes. They get use to listening to voices and it helps calm them. Follow these instructions and stop allowing her to sleep in your bed while she is a puppy trying to learn.
It's normal for you to feel this way. My cat died in August this year and we got another kitten 2-3 days after her death. I didn't feel as if I could ever love her as much as I did my other cat but I'm getting closer to her.
You should crate your pup at night. That will help with "potty-training". Put a warm blanket in there and some toys for him and that should get him to sleep soon or atleast stop him crying for so long.
I wouldn't let the puppy on your bed until it is fulling toilet-trained. Because your bed is so big, he has room to go relieve himself on the bed, as well as sleep on it.
Dogs will never relieve themself where they sleep but if they have the space to do so, they will.
Just give it time and soon not only will you love this pup so much more than you do now, but it should stop most of the crying and should help with him relieving himself on your bed.
A new puppy can never replace the old dog but you will love it as much and for different reasons. Sounds to me that he is really nervous and needs your love and attention. But dont let him on the bed, he will cry till he settles and this can be so frustrating. Make a bed for him, a box will do , something he can snuggle down into and feel safe, give an old toy, shoe etc, perhaps a clock, I have heard they are soothing for puppies. Try logging on to allaboutpets.org they have all sorts of information on training and feeding etc. Good luck
I agree that it may be too soon for you for another pet. Everyone deals with their grief in their own way. My husband talked me into a dog I wasn't ready for either after losing a beloved pet.
But since you have him, let's look at the positive. First of all, Lady wouldn't want you to be unhappy and neither do your parents. Their intention (like my husband's) was misguided but they did this because they love you. That said..
Your new puppy will NEVER "replace" Lady, but in time can bring you his own special qualities and love. It will take some time till your fresh wounds from the loss of your dog will heal a bit.
Till then your best bet is to "crate train" your new puppy. Normally, they are not reliably trained until they are about 4 months old. Get a dog crate, line it with towels over newspapers or one of those nice faux sheepskin, washable mats (get two!) Put a hot water bottle covered with a towel in for warmth, and you could even add a little ticking clock to simulate his mother's heartbeat. The reason he is crying is because he's missing his mom and siblings! Give him lots of hugs.
Put the crate either next to your bed or on your bed so he can see you and reach in to comfort him if he cries.
Dogs do not "mess" where they are confined if at all possible. He's still a little puppy so you may have to deal with this until he's completely housebroken. But once he learns the routine at night, and learns you will cuddle him, you'll begin to bond a bit, and the crying will start to subside. Take him out very last thing at night (or your parents should), and first thing in the morning. Also in the morning open his crate and leave the door open. This will eventually become his "house" and his safe place to go. Once he's older, you'll find he'll use it as his sleeping place, not a place to view as punishment.
Hope this helps. So sorry for your loss. In spite of your grief, I hope you will have compassion for this new "baby" puppy and help him grown up happy and healthy.
never be so close to anyone because death is universal truth.no creature can have similar qualities.your lady must have some another disadvantages which are not in your puppy.adjust yourself in any situation and be positive.
a wire cage in your bedroom with a ticking clock under a bunch of bedding. This represents his mothers heartbeat even a heating on low helps,or a hot water bottle.Be carefull if he's a chewer. As far as house trianing take him out when you figgure he has to go. They also have training pads that you can get at any big store. Just keep moving them toward the door. Don't use these to long as he'll use these instead going outside.luck to ya
The best way to train any puppy, Boy or Girl: Puppies need potty breaks with frequency that is appropriate for their age.
rule of thumb is 1 hour frequency per month of age they are old. Like when they are one month old they need to go out every hour. When they are 1 and 1/2 months old every hour and a half. When they are two months old every two hours, and so on. As they get older up to 6 months. Then they should have a potty break every six hours when possible though out the rest of there life. They can hold it much longer thou. The way to teach them to hold it is to use a create just their size. Big enough for them to stand up turn around and lay down. No bigger because the usually won't mess where they have to lay. Leave them in the create till potty break time, Pick them up carry them out side and wait till they go. When they go praise them with a high pitch jubilation. A BIG FUSS, happy puppy sounds. Wait about three minutes if the puppy shows no signs of surching the ground to do anymore elimination. Tell him he is a good boy and take him right back inside. This way he will learn that the reason you take him outside is for him to do his duties. Number one it will teach him this is where to go an secondly you will not have to wait so long for him when you do take him out. When you take him back inside your home and he has eliminated both, #1and #2 you should be safe to let him play in you living quarters for a short time without chance of accident. Then return him to his create till next potty break time. When you first start it may take some time to get into his patteren of break times.
Good Luck, Dawn
P.S. Also remember as soon as a puppy finishes eating they go usually right away.
You sound like you are very mature and Understanding. You have realized your parents did this out of Love and concern for you. Although they should have talked to you about such things instead of just going ahead with it. But I guess they decided having a Surpise might bring you out. Different people handle such things in different ways.
I had recently lost my favorite Budgie and I really did want some time to adjust and grieve. But then I have another one named Boo who lost his friend too.
Can they take him back? Usually there is a period of time that you can change your mind- a week or two? And Under the circumstances it is a good reason. If it is a respectable place they should fully understand and want whats best for the dog and that is whats best for you- under the circumstances. The Dog wil be able to sense your weariness.
And if not - I m sure you will adjust and end up Loving this puppy. You will always have your memories of your other pup and this one won t take away from that in Loving it. It will be a different doggie with its own unique different personality and quirks.
Since your Parents may have jumped the gun a bit - maybe they could help you out a bit in its care. This would help you ease into it and to be able to have some time to grieve the lost of your companion. And to be able to ease into getting to know this new little puppy and before you know it you ll be laughing at its antics and be able to bond with your new little friend.
And this is a good time to learn how to train a puppy and to know whats involved in its training since you hadn t experienced as much in the begining with the other one. Because you were so much younger and your parents or someone else must have done that. My daughter at 18 has just got one and its the first one we ve ever had. We are both learning together how to do this. The Cage training does sound Good and still humane. And until its house broken and the fact that they say with the theory of Following the Method of Dogs responding to learning thru being members of the Pack and your the Leader and that allowing it to sleep in your bed with it messes with that in the begining - The Crate training will be better for achieving this. I m still learning but if I have some of it down properly - you can still decide later if you want it to join you in bed and it still will follow that plan with you being the leader and would be giving it permission at that time to do so. The Dog would not be making the choice.
I know you are hurting and you will and never have to forget your past companion. It will start to hurt less and the good memories will stand out and leave you with a smile on your face instead of pain. She would not want you to be hurting. She would want you to remember that she is not hurting and is as peaceful place as you can get. And she would Love to see you happy again and go on to enjoy life as you did with her and to give that Love to another as you have done with her.
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